Every single person on the planet strives to be as successful as possible. But, there is a reason for why not all, more precisely – a handful of people manage to achieve the desired level of success. Have you ever asked yourself why?
It appears that a lot of studies have been done on this issue, revealing that each one of these handful of people is guided by the premise that “everything depends on them”. More so, in every interview conducted with a successful person we hear them saying that “everything depends on us” and that if we truly, genuinely believe in that what we are doing, we are definitely going to achieve it.
Notwithstanding the scientific proofs and the repetition in all the success-story-interviews, in most of the cases we do not apply the “rule”
- Either because we believe that everything is predetermined, that we have a destiny we cannot avoid;
- Or, we believe that science and interview tips are just a crap and that the particular successful person is just selling cheap tricks and hiding the real recipe for success.
To show you that everything really depends on you, let’s do a one minute exercise. Have you ever done something, and immediately had the presentiment that things are going to happen as you wished? Have you ever applied for a job and had the feeling that you are going to get that job for sure, and in the end, got the job? Or, have you ever applied for a job and had the sense that you are definitely not going to get the job, and in the end did not get that job? Of course you had. And what is your explanation, your reasoning – that you have gutted accurate instincts? Yes, thought so.
Well, don’t be so sure. Let’s take our job example with both the outcomes and learn the most important lesson before diving into personal development, success and happiness. Let’s, untangle why really “everything depends on you” – the meaning of “everything depends on you.”
You notice a job opportunity. This job is your dream job. You are excited even before starting the application process. You are excited during the application process – going through the application requirements and criteria, you feel that your profile and the job position are a perfect match. You send the application and deep inside, you feel that you are going to get the job. After a while, when you expect the least, you receive an e-mail that you have been shortlisted. You become excited all over again. You rock the interview for you prepared for it, but also because you are confident that this job was created for you. Few days later, you receive another e-mail alerting you that you have been selected for the job.
- Way before starting the application process, when first skimming through the job opportunity, you realized that this was your dream job;
- When in the process of preparing the application, you could not wait but tell the evaluation committee how much your profile matches the job position;
- You went excited at the interview with the thought that the interviewers need too to realize you are their choice.
Why you got the job?
Because at every single step you were sending signals to the Universe that this is your vow and that it should work for you. You were not confused about the job, you were sure all the time that you want this job and therefore, you were sending straightforward and consistent messages to the Universe, which, in the final instance helped you to get it.
You notice a job opportunity. This job is not your dream job and you are not sure if you want or if you should apply or not, but still, as you are unemployed, you decide to apply. You are not excited before starting the application process, you are either not sure that you want the job or you are not sure if you are going to be selected. You are not excited during the application process too – going through the application requirements and criteria, you feel that your profile and the job position are not a perfect match, but still, you force yourself to, at least try. You send the application and deep inside, you feel that something is wrong and that most probably you are not going to get the job. After a while, you receive an e-mail that you have not been shortlisted. You recall the moments even before you applied when you told yourself that you knew you were not going to get the job.
- Way before starting the application process, when first skimming through the job opportunity, you realized that this might not be your dream job either because it does not match your vision for what your job should be or you are incompetent for it;
- When in the process of preparing the application, you could not wait but finish the application because you could not take any minute longer to force yourself into writing something into which you do not believe truly;
- You did not get the chance to be shortlisted.
Why you did not get the job?
Because at every single step you were sending signals to the Universe that this might be and might not be your vow and that it should work for you. You were confused about the job, you were not sure if you want this job or if it matches your qualifications and therefore, you were sending inconsistent messages to the Universe, which, in the final instance helped you not to get it.
What is the conclusion? Albeit seemingly two examples with two different outcomes, in reality, it is two examples with the same outcome – You got what you wanted: in the first example you got the job you wanted, and in the second example you did not get the job because in the first place, you did not want it. See why everything depends on you?
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