Let’s face it: we all have that one friend who is surely not smarter than us, but who always manages to get what they want, be it job, their idea accepted, and most importantly, that friend of ours is considered the smartest one. We might be the most competent in that particular situation, or, we might have the most unique idea, but still, we do not receive the attention we are ‘supposed to’ based on our qualities.
No, your friend is not born under a lucky star. It appears that, yes, knowledge is power itself however being knowledgeable is not sufficient per se – it has to go hand in hand with effective communication. In fact, we need to learn how to communicate our knowledge for 10% is what we say, and 90% id how we say it, and finally receive the feedback we so eagerly want.
How to become an effective communicator?
Here is a list of quick tips:
- Be confident – Make sure your appearance coupled with your verbal and non-verbal actions leave impression that you know what you are doing;
- Assert yourself – Make sure it is crystal clear to you what is that you want to achieve by saying something, and, at the same time, make sure you do not communicate your thought in an aggressive manner. On the contrary, make sure to communicate your idea in a way that it looks as a win-win solution from which all the people engaged in the interaction gain.
- Employ non-verbal skills:
- Maintain a clear, calm and stable voice tone leaving no room for stammering and whispering;
- Maintain eye contact without persistent eye stare or persistent floor/window stare;
- Maintain open body language and gestures to enhance the strength of your thought; and
- Smile to show openness, friendliness and gain attraction;
- Keep stress under control for sometimes you only have one chance
- Be engaged listener by focusing fully at your speaker, showing genuine interest in what they are saying and providing feedback;
- Speak from the heart [even when you do not] to exude passion and sureness about what you are saying;
- Express gratitude to strengthen your relationship with the ones with whom you are discussing;
- Express apologies when you are wrong;
- Use humor to make all engaged comfortable, but also to ease stress and tension; and
- Don’t forget to use your co-discussants names for one’s name is the single, most important word in one’s life.
For each of these tips entire articles will be dedicated with the upcoming posts under this category. Follow us and be[come] THE effective communicator!